Sunday, September 18, 2005

The Birthday Bash

"This party rocks" "Totally" "Everyone is going to think we're rock stars!" These were overheard at Bella's party yesterday at Club Libby Lu. They had a blast! They first got to get their little backpacks and add 5 girly trinkets to them. They next changed into "rock star clothes" and then underwent the makeover. Hair, make-up and then dancing around to loud music. We went for pizza afterwards. Seemed to have been an overwhelming success!

Today we had visitors--Grandma and Grandpa. The girls were very excited to see them! Thanks for coming over guys!

My lovely mother has decided to start an exercise program. Way to go Mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In honor of that decision I wanted to post something I read in the September 2005 issue of The Oprah Magazine, written by the almighty one (hee, hee) herself. Thought it was kind of good stuff.

"Nothing happens until you decide. Years ago on my show, a young mother shared her frustration with getting her son to go to bed. Her son was 3 and ruling the house (I have never seen this in the clinic before....ha, ha {by the way this comment wasn't in the article}). He wanted to sleep in her bed and refused to lie down in his own. The more the mother insisted, the more the child resisted - yelling, screaming, and literally dropping from exhaustion.

We showed a tape of the two of them wrestling it out. When our expert, Dr Stanley Tureki, finished watching, he said something that made the hairs on my arm stand up: "Nothing happens until you decide." The reason her 3-year-old didn't sleep in his own bed was that the mother had not decided it would happen. When she did, the child would go to his bed. He might cry and scream and rant until he fell asleep, but he would eventually realzie that his mother had made up her mind.

Well I knew he was speaking about a 3-year-old, but I also knew for sure that this brilliant piece of advice applied to many other aspects of life: Relationships. Career moves. Weight issues. Everything depends on your decisions.

For years I was stuck in a weight trap, yo-yoing up and down the scale. I made a decision two years ago to stop wishing, praying, and wanting, wanting, wanting to be better. Instead I figured out what it would really take to improve my life. Then I decided to do it.

When you don't know what to do, my best advice is to do nothing until clarity comes. Getting still, being able to hear your own voice and not the voices of the world, quickens clarity. Once you decide what you want, you make a commitment to that decision. One of my favorite quotes is from mountaineer W.H. Murray:

Until one is commited there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creations), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for Goethe's couplets: "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. / Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."

Make a decision and watch your life move forward."

1 comment:

cld said...

Since you made it public....I did the weight lifting routine that you gave me plus a few extra moves I found in some magazines. Had a great time this weekend.